7 Reasons Why a Vibrator is Just as Good as a Man
Answer me this – what’s better? Chocolate ice cream or chocolate cake? Maybe you prefer one to the other. Or maybe you like them both the same, depending on your mood. Well that’s the same way we should think of sex toys for self pleasure vs. real sex with a partner. There’s no need to avoid one and always do the other. There’s no need to say one is better than the other. They’re both GREAT! They both offer unique experiences and different kinds of pleasure. You might like the intensity of a man making love to you. Or you might like the relentless, powerful vibes of your favorite toy.
Vibrator in female hand, sex toy and orgasm concept. Woman wearing fishnet stockings and black negligee holds purple silicone dildo laying on the bed
You can have it both ways! In fact, I’m going to give you seven reasons why a vibrator is just as good as sex with a man – if not better! (But hey, don’t tell your boyfriend I said so)
- A vibrator allows you to learn your body in ways making love with a man can’t.
Sex with a guy you like is amazing, no doubt about it. But it’s doubtful even an experienced lover knows EXACTLY what you like in bed. Having good sex with a partner takes several sessions to perfect, so the two of you can learn each other’s likes and dislikes. With a toy, it’s all about your pleasure and you can figure out what works for you and what gets you off. Masturbating lets you learn your orgasmic response, what’s good for build up or “edging”, and how to create a rhythm that brings you a more powerful orgasm.
Most sex therapists recommend that virginal women use a vibrator before they have sex with a man. That way, you can actually help your lover figure out how to stimulate your clitoris, vagina, G-spot, labia and so one. Once you have an understanding of what makes you come and how long it takes, you can share that information with a partner or use it solo anytime you want. This helps you become more confident in bed and that’s always a good thing.
- Vibrators help you to learn your body’s unique texture – and identify unusual changes, which could indicate sickness or infection.
The more you touch yourself and know your body the more you can identify symptoms of STI infections, cysts, or even cancer. Touching yourself on a regular basis is one of the best ways to detect disease or harmful conditions before they get worse.
- Vibrators are great for when you DON’T have a man but still need some TLC.
In fact, a good vibrator can prevent you from getting mixed up with the wrong guy and having a bad relationship and even more disappointing sex. Self pleasure keeps you in prime sexual condition. Vibrators help improve sexual function and keep you having orgasms – which are actually healthy for adult women of all ages. Orgasms trigger hormones and neurotransmitters in the body, which lets you get rid of stress, feel relaxed, and experience a natural high.
Orgasm is basically a series of muscle contractions. That means it helps to keep your pelvic floor muscles in shape, which will help prevent incontinence later on. While most people think of sex as “riding a bicycle”, that’s simply not the case. You have to “use it or lose it” or else the vagina can start to tighten up over time making sex uncomfortable or painful. The inactivity is even more frustrating past the age of menopause since there are chemical changes that cause dryness and loss of vaginal elasticity. Without regular penetration, there’s even less blood circulation to the genitals, hindering sexual response.
You could say orgasming is a form of exercise too. Now hold on, I’m not actually suggesting that using a vibrator is better than running on a treadmill or doing Tae-Bo. No, but every little bit counts! Orgasms burn calories, yes. More importantly, they help to lower blood pressure and resting heart rate. Increasing your heart rate is good for you, which is why contrary to popular belief sex is not a health risk if you get older. Good sex is actually linked with living longer according to recent sex health studies.
Long story short, even when you’re on a break – don’t ever stop having sex! Self-love is real love.
- Vibrators are better for multiple orgasms – and those are excellent for de-stressing!
Vibrators never quit so you can use them for minutes or even hours at a time, whereas men can very easily get tired after the 20 minute mark – or at least that’s what Sex and the City writer Candace Bushnell thinks. Reduce stress by going for a marathon session, with no worries about a man’s staying power or his sensitivity. Machines are high-performing, built to last, and never make a sour face!
- Vibrators allow for hotter sex fantasies.
Sex in person is good…but the truth is it’s a little difficult to fantasize when you’re having sex with a partner. You have to fantasize according to the motion, rhythm and position that you’re in, and according to whatever the guy is giving you. You might not want to fantasize at all, if you’re attracted to the guy because that defeats the whole purpose, right? But thinking about a taboo sex fantasy and concentrating on it – all the while using a powerful vibrator for several minutes as you focus on every luscious detail of that fantasy – is how you can have more explosive orgasms and LIVE and FEEL that fantasy, no matter how unlikely it is. (I know…you could theoretically score with Dwayne the Rock Johnson after he saves you from a skyscraper explosion…but that’s probably not going to happen this year!)
- Vibrators allow for better interactive role playing.
Role-playing is fun with a partner, no doubt…but it’s much EASIER to do with a vibrator. When you’re talking on the phone or typing sext messages or even playing on webcam, all you have to is hold the vibrator in place and you can better focus on interacting with your partner. When you roleplay in person, you’re usually more tense and self-conscious about how to move, what to say, and how to stay in character. Constant stimulation as you speak to your partner only enhances the erotic conversation.
- Vibrators are customizable!
Men come in multiple sizes, shapes, styles and personalities. It takes years to find one that matches you. Vibrators, on the other hand, are fairly inexpensive and yet they’re insanely customizable. You can find them in a variety of:
- Materials (metal, plastic or realistic cyber skin)
- Shapes (a plain shape, dildo shape, a realistic penis, or even an anal vibrator)
- Vibration level (from slow to medium to super strong and intense)
- Different Sizes (including girth, or length, or small like a ring or fake lipstick)
- Different Colors (realistic skin color or discreet for travel)
- Waterproof (use them in the tub)
- Clitoral or G-spot stimulation or BOTH simultaneously
And yes, of course, you can date multiple vibrators at once and never have to deal with a vibrator’s insecurity. It just goes non-stop until you tell it to go to sleep. Talk about the perfect NSA relationship! Over at my blog site, we’ve written a guide to using your vibrator called “You’re Doing It Wrong: The Best Way to Care for Your New Vibrator.” Check it out as a free gift just for looking around the store and previewing our website!