Let’s face it: there’s nothing quite like a good ol’ fashion handjob. Sure, oral sex can be a fun and exciting way to spice up the bedroom, it can also be messy, impractical, or intimidating for those who don’t have as much experience in the bedroom (or even for those embarking on the first stages of their relationship). Furthermore, a blow job could leave you vulnerable to sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) like herpes, gonorrhea, or chlamydia. These diseases can infect the throat or even spread to the genital regions if caution isn’t practiced. It is much easier to use a condom during a handjob than it is a blow job, as your partner may not feel comfortable with the idea of the condom in their mouth in fear of choking on it. However, even a handjob can be intimidating. Many partners feel as though they don’t know how to give one, and it can be particularly confusing for female partners as they can’t use their personal experience to guide them. In reality, it’s not as hard as it may seem. Follow these easy steps in order to give a great handjob!
How to Give a Great Handjob
Communication is Key
Like anything else in sex, communication is key. Before diving into it, talk to your lover and express any fears, doubts, or concerns you may have prior. Ask them if there are any particular strokes they like, how tight they would like you to grip the shaft, and if they’re comfortable with ball-play or not.
This would also be a good time to ask them if they have any kinks, such as a nickname they would like to be called, and so on.
Don’t Forget the Lube
Lubrication isn’t exclusively for penetration. Using a bit of lube, like our silicon-based “Gun Oil” (available in 16oz and a water-based 32oz) makes for an incredibly smooth handjob as it allows the shaft to glide effortlessly through the palm of your hand. It enhances the experience, whether you’re using a condom or not, and is the perfect aid to giving a great handjob.
If you’re looking to make it a little more interesting, you could also go for a lube that has a heating sensation or a flavor to it, like our Blueberry Kush Cannalube.
Don’t Fear the Penis
More often than not, many people are scared to really grip the penis. While this is certainly much better than starting off with too harsh, don’t be afraid to apply a little pressure or vary how tight you’re holding as you’re stroking. Don’t fear the penis; it won’t break (unless you’re really trying to hurt it).
Again, communication is key. Each partner will have their own preferences in terms of grip. Just as you shouldn’t be afraid to give the penis a firm hold, don’t be afraid to ask your partner, “Is this too tight?”
Start Slow
As tempting as it is to get excited and give it your all straight from the get-go, start slow and work your way up to a faster speed. This will allow your partner to really enjoy the handjob and help them last longer. It will also make it more rewarding when things do start to pick up.
Vary Your Strokes
Spice it up! Both long strokes and short, rapid strokes are great, but too much of either can get boring; not just for your partner, but for you as well. You never want the handjob to end with, “My hands are getting tired, can you hurry up and finish already?”
You can vary your speed, as well. Perhaps things could pick up for a bit with some short, rapid strokes, before winding down again with longer strokes, just to give your partner a taste of what’s to come.
Two Hands Are Better Than One
And that doesn’t just mean both hands have to be on the shaft the whole time. One hand could fondle the testicles, the head of the penis, or massage your partner’s thigh while the other is on the shaft. You could also switch between both hands to allow one to rest.
One Hand Washes the Other
There’s nothing quite like getting each other off. Just because you’re giving your partner a handjob doesn’t mean they have to just lie there. If you’re both into the idea, you could give them a handjob while they finger you (or give you a handjob, as well, in the case of same-sex couples). Orgasming at the same time is very powerful and sensual. With a little magic and some communicating, you could very well finish in perfect sync and harmony.
Toy Around
Who said sex toys are only for women? Although vibrators are a common staple of a woman’s top drawer, there are plenty of sex toys a guy can enjoy, as well. There are fleshlights, which are designed to look and feel like the inside of a real vagina. Amidst the handjob, you could pull the fleshlight in to add an extra special wow-factor to the ordeal.
Cock rings are another great option. While the most basic cockrings simply apply pressure at the base of the shaft to increase the intensity and pleasure, some are lined with little silicone spikes, and others vibrate! If your partner is into anal play, you could also penetrate them with a dildo while giving a handjob with your other hand.
Plan Ahead
Unless you’re using a condom, your partner will need a place to finish. Plan ahead. You don’t want to find yourself in a situation where your partner is about to cum and you end up with a face full of sperm unexpectedly because you didn’t discuss how you would handle it prior.
Although there’s nothing wrong with getting a facial, it’s definitely something that needs to be arranged ahead of time. Your partner could also finish on your chest, your neck, or you could catch it in your mouth. It all depends on what both of you feel most comfortable with. Alternatively, you could ask them to finish in a tissue, the bin, or save the condom for when they’re about to cum.
In Conclusion
Handjobs are a wonderful, sanitary, simple, yet sexy way to spice up the bedroom. While handjobs can seem intimidating at the start of a new relationship or for those who aren’t as experienced, they’re not as hard to pull off as you’d think. All it takes is communication, a good grip, stamina, a little planning, and some teamwork to give a great handjob. For the hottest sex tips, tricks, trends, and more, head on over to our blog. To learn more about Adult Shop Sex Toys and our products, please contact us.
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